A SUCCESSFUL CONVERSATIONIST'S MOTTO:
"BEING CONSIDERATE OF YOUR CONVERSATION PARTNER
IS OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE"
The title of today's topic might provoke some strange feelings in some of you. In fact, some of you might be asking yourselves something like: (a) Is this another sermon being preached to us about how we should act and behave? (b) Why should I be concerned about being considerate of someone during a conversation if they aren't the same with me? (c) Why is this topic of any interest for those people who are just talking with one another casually? Or maybe, you have another question in your mind. These are all doubts that might be triggered in one's mind because the word "considerate" conjures up images about being overly polite to someone, showing them too much respect, or appearing to be artificial and insincere with them.
However, as you will soon find out, this is actually a very serious topic to reflect on. Before you have your next conversation with someone, think about the advice that is given here. Showing your conversation partner consideration is much more than simply being nice or polite to them. Let's explore what's involved in being mindful of the person with whom you are speaking, and how it will have a positive effect on your future conversations with others. If you want to be a successful conversationist, then it is important to (1) recognize who your conversation partner is, (2) determine ahead of time what the purpose of your conversation is with someone else, (3) know what to say and how to say it, and (4) learn how to control your own emotions and behavior during a conversation.
Third of all, if you want to become a successful talker who is mindful of whom you are talking with, then it is important to know "what to say" and "how to say it". Keep in mind all of the following factors. Set the tone of your talk by establishing whether or not it is formal, informal, or an everyday type conversation. This will help you to establish "what to say" and "how to say it".
When you have to decide "what to say", remember the difference between formal and informal vocabulary and wording; such as the words "someone" (formal) and "somebody" (informal). Look here for an extensive explanation about the difference between formal and informal communication.
Basically the differences between formal and informal communication are not only in the vocabulary, but also in the grammar and tone that are used during oral communication. Hence, it is important to know "how to say something" as well. In a formal conversation the tone of voice that is used can be described as distant, serious and more exact. On the other hand, the quality or character of the sound of the voice used in an informal conversation is friendly, relaxed and more personable. Look here for some precise examples of the differences in vocabulary, grammar and tone that are used in these two different types of conversations.