A SUCCESSFUL CONVERSATIONIST'S MOTTO:
"BEING CONSIDERATE OF YOUR CONVERSATION PARTNER
IS OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE"
The title of today's topic might provoke some strange feelings in some of you. In fact, some of you might be asking yourselves something like: (a) Is this another sermon being preached to us about how we should act and behave? (b) Why should I be concerned about being considerate of someone during a conversation if they aren't the same with me? (c) Why is this topic of any interest for those people who are just talking with one another casually? Or maybe, you have another question in your mind. These are all doubts that might be triggered in one's mind because the word "considerate" conjures up images about being overly polite to someone, showing them too much respect, or appearing to be artificial and insincere with them.
However, as you will soon find out, this is actually a very serious topic to reflect on. Before you have your next conversation with someone, think about the advice that is given here. Showing your conversation partner consideration is much more than simply being nice or polite to them. Let's explore what's involved in being mindful of the person with whom you are speaking, and how it will have a positive effect on your future conversations with others. If you want to be a successful conversationist, then it is important to (1) recognize who your conversation partner is, (2) determine ahead of time what the purpose of your conversation is with someone else, (3) know what to say and how to say it, and (4) learn how to control your own emotions and behavior during a conversation.
In summary, the importance of being considerate of the person that you are talking with is of the utmost interest to someone who wants to have a successful conversation with another person. Success stems from knowing who you are talking to, thinking beforehand about what you want to say, knowing how to say it, and learning how to control your own emotions and behavior. Remember, you never know who it is you are talking to when you are talking to that person for the first time.
Learn how to be a successful conversationist if you want to achieve success in your oral communication skills. When your conversation partner is being especially difficult, then model the behavior you want them to display. If this particular person is impossible to deal with now, then gently leave the conversation for another day in the future. Sometimes it will even be necessary to decide whether or not you want to continue your contact with this person. This is an extreme case, but it sometimes might happen.